While many of us regardless of gender watch porn – which is MORE than fine! It’s important to remember that it isn’t real life, it's made to entertain us and is a performance, much like a movie!
Many of us had very limited sex education growing up and ended learning how to have sex through porn.
This means many of us miss out on how to stay protected from STIs as well as how to have pleasurable sex.
Real sex can be raw, messy and pretty laughable, so I’m going to tell you the main differences between porn and real-life sex!
Body Hair
Porn stars tend to have little to no hair down there, but in real life, 65% of vulvas and 85% of penises are hairy!
Why is this important to know?
How you fashion your body hair is up to you and YOU ONLY.
If you want to wax, shave or let it grow that's your decision and no one should ever tell you to – if so, get rid of them.
It's important to remember that it's a pornstars job and part of their job is looking the part.
This is not to say you can't shave or wax or epilate down there, it’s more than fine it's YOUR BODY. It’s just helpful to understand that it’s YOUR choice and you don’t need to look like porn to be enough.
Vulva Views
Pornstar's vulvas tend to all look the same, perfectly in place and bleached. However, real-world vulvas come in all shapes, sizes and colours – they are snowflakes, every one is unique!
Why is this important to know?
Again, porn can affect our body confidence.
It’s important to remember that they have most likely spent a lot of time on making their vulva look a certain way, bleaching and even labiaplasty.
Your vulva is a wonderful thing that does wonderful things, cherish it as much as you can!
Penis Size
Pornstar's penises average 6-9 inches (pretty big huh?!) whereas the average real-life penis ranges from 5-7 inches.
Why is this important to know?
Porn can lead us to feel not so body confident when all their bodies look the same.
It’s important to remember that they have been chosen because of how they look and because it’s entertaining.
Your penis is amazing and size really isn’t everything, in fact, 80% of vulvas cant orgasm through penetration alone!
Orgasms
While performers seem to go for days, in real life the average penises ejaculate within 5.4 minutes.
And ‘female performers’ seem to always orgasm through penetration, but as stated earlier 71% of vulvas cannot!
Why is this important to know?
This is super important because many of us who don’t have a vulva but like to pleasure them, take notes from porn. Hence, the super low orgasm rate for vulvas in heterosexual relationships.
If we know that this is for show then in theory, more orgasms! Win-win.
It’s also good to know about the length until ejaculation. In our younger days, there tended to be lots of teasing around how long people ‘should last’. This statistic is super refreshing and helps those who worry about their timing.
Porn stars tend to have little to no hair down there, but in real life, 65% of vulvas and 85% of penises are hairy!
Why is this important to know?
How you fashion your body hair is up to you and YOU ONLY.
If you want to wax, shave or let it grow that's your decision and no one should ever tell you to – if so, get rid of them.
It's important to remember that it's a pornstars job and part of their job is looking the part.
This is not to say you can't shave or wax or epilate down there, it’s more than fine it's YOUR BODY. It’s just helpful to understand that it’s YOUR choice and you don’t need to look like porn to be enough.
Pornstar's vulvas tend to all look the same, perfectly in place and bleached. However, real-world vulvas come in all shapes, sizes and colours – they are snowflakes, every one is unique!
Why is this important to know?
Again, porn can affect our body confidence.
It’s important to remember that they have most likely spent a lot of time on making their vulva look a certain way, bleaching and even labiaplasty.
Your vulva is a wonderful thing that does wonderful things, cherish it as much as you can!
Pornstar's penises average 6-9 inches (pretty big huh?!) whereas the average real-life penis ranges from 5-7 inches.
Why is this important to know?
Porn can lead us to feel not so body confident when all their bodies look the same.
It’s important to remember that they have been chosen because of how they look and because it’s entertaining.
Your penis is amazing and size really isn’t everything, in fact, 80% of vulvas cant orgasm through penetration alone!
While performers seem to go for days, in real life the average penises ejaculate within 5.4 minutes.
And ‘female performers’ seem to always orgasm through penetration, but as stated earlier 71% of vulvas cannot!
Why is this important to know?
This is super important because many of us who don’t have a vulva but like to pleasure them, take notes from porn. Hence, the super low orgasm rate for vulvas in heterosexual relationships.
If we know that this is for show then in theory, more orgasms! Win-win.
It’s also good to know about the length until ejaculation. In our younger days, there tended to be lots of teasing around how long people ‘should last’. This statistic is super refreshing and helps those who worry about their timing.
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