Before exploring techniques for squirting, it's important to understand what it is.
'Female ejaculation' (which can occur in anyone with a vulva), on the other hand, refers to the release of a clear, odourless fluid. Squirting can happen during sexual arousal and orgasm.
If you're interested in learning how to squirt or helping someone who wants to, there are steps you can take to increase the chances—yes, Spider-Man can help with that...
Understanding Anatomy
Before diving into techniques, it's important to understand the anatomy of the female body. The 'G-area,' located about 2-3 inches inside the vagina on the front wall, is often associated with squirting. You can read more about this here.
The clitoris, located at the top of the vulva, contains thousands of nerve endings and is a primary source of sexual pleasure.
Like all aspects of reproductive and female health, there's limited data on how our bodies work, but this is slowly changing.
Debunking Myths About Squirting
There are many myths about squirting, such as the belief that it's not real, just urine, or that only some people can squirt. Research shows that squirting is definitely real and that anyone with a vulva can potentially learn how to do it (if they want to).
It's also important to note that squirting is not a measure of the quality of an orgasm or sexual experience. Everyone's body responds differently, and what works for one person may not work for another.
It is not proven where or what the liquid is made up of, but some studies say it is pee, or part pee, skene gland liquid and female ejaculate. Regardless of what it is, its perfectly safe and normal!
The Weird British Law on Squirting
Did you know in 2014, the British government banned ‘female ejaculation’ from UK pornography as they classed the act as water sports?
However, thanks to the lack of research into female pleasure we are still unsure on what it actually consists of even though its been reported that possibly up to 54% can experience this.
Interestingly, urinating on someone isn’t an issue in other contexts, for example the mainstream hit American Pie 2 has a notorious scene where a main male character is urinated on and clearly enjoys it, and this was awarded a 15 certificate. But had both or either character been naked, this would have been banned.…
What Does Squirting Feel Like?
Squirting can feel different for everyone, but here are some common descriptions:
- Relief and Pleasure: Many people compare it to a feeling of relief, like finally letting go after holding in pee, but with a lot more pleasure mixed in.
- Warm and Wet Sensation: There's a noticeable warm and wet feeling, which can be a bit surprising if you're not expecting it. It's different from typical vaginal lubrication, often more intense.
- A Sudden Rush: Some describe it as a sudden rush or gush of fluid, which can catch you off guard, especially if it happens for the first time. It might feel like a build-up of pressure that gets released.
- Body Reactions: There can be some involuntary muscle contractions, like the ones during an orgasm, adding to the sensation of release.
- Intense orgasm: Often when coupled up with external clitoris stimulation it feel like a more intense and internal orgasm.
Remember, everyone's experience with squirting is unique, and it's totally okay if it doesn't happen or if it feels different for you. The most important thing is to relax and enjoy the experience, however it unfolds!
Top Tip: When you are getting close, you may feel a pressure that feels like you need to pee. Relax your muscles and let go.
Preparing for Squirting with a Partner
To prepare for squirting, make sure you or your partner is well-hydrated, as this can help increase fluid production. If you're using sex toys or other objects, ensure they're clean and free of bacteria and make sure fingers are clean and nails are trimmed to prevent any injuries or infections.
Make sure you are warmed up, don't go straight into this - play with your partner or yourself, make out and tease until you're begging for it.
It's also super important to be fully relaxed and comfortable, which can be achieved through dimmed lighting, deep breathing, meditation, or other relaxation techniques BUT most importantly trusting your partner.
Using a natural water-based lubricant is very much recommended and a waterproof blanket or towel can protect your bedding, although for most of us it isn't as much liquid as you would think - often the 'squirting' we see in porn is actually just them peeing for dramatic effect.
How to Stimulate the 'G-area' for Squirting with a Partner
The 'G-area', as I prefer to call it, is not a specific organ but rather an area 2-3 inches inside the vagina (it will feel slightly rough) and is key to squirting. Before beginning, I recommend placing a pillow under your pelvis to help achieve the right angle.
Start by inserting one or two fingers into the vagina and curling them upwards towards the front wall, similar to how Spider-Man does when he shoots his web fluid ;). Rest the palm of your hand over the clitoris; this will then be stimulated when you begin the motions.
Experiment with different motions, such as rubbing, tapping, or pressing. A "come hither" motion is often particularly effective and usually requires a firm motion of pulling your hand up and down. This may cause some noise, especially when well-lubricated, which is perfectly normal.
Communication and regular check-ins with your partner are crucial during this process, as individual preferences vary.
Squirting might cause cramps if your partner is helping you achieve this, so make sure you are both well-rested. Alternatively, you could stimulate your own clitoris while they handle the internal stimulation—teamwork!
The Importance of Relaxation
Relaxation is essential when it comes to squirting. Tension or anxiety can make it difficult to fully experience pleasure. Focus on enjoying the experience rather than stressing about squirting. It might take a few sessions to fully relax and go with it, and that's okay!
Different Techniques for Squirting or Squirting Solo
There are various techniques for achieving squirting, and what works best can vary from person to person.
Some find vibrators or other sex toys helpful to hit the right angles, while others find they can get the angle on their own with fingers. This involves the same technique as partnered play, just with your own hand.
For those having sex with someone with a penis, some may find they can squirt from penetration at the right angle.
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Sex Positions for Squirting
If you have sex with penises, sometimes in the right position you can squirt from penetration. The best positions for this are:
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Butterfly - vulva-owners legs on penis-owner's shoulders and body lifted up
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Doggy but with penis-owner further over your bum
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Cowgirl - vulva-owner on top
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Laying on your tummy flat and the penis-owner thrusting as far forward as possible.
Final Reminders
Squirting should not be the sole focus of sexual activity. The goal is to connect, bond, and enjoy the experience with your partner. Use the techniques mentioned above, focusing on stimulating the 'G-area' and combining it with clitoral stimulation if desired.
Remember that not everyone will squirt on their first try, and that's perfectly fine.
Learning to squirt can be an enjoyable and rewarding experience. However, it's important to remember that everyone's body is different, and not everyone will be able to squirt. Embrace your sexuality and focus on the pleasure of the experience. Communicate openly with your partner, explore different techniques, and most importantly, have fun!
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